Everyday Life Needs Inclusion Not Exclusion

I wonder...

I wonder would anybody really care

 if one day I wasn't there?

Would they wonder where I'd gone?

Would anybody shed a tear

 if my voice they'd never hear?

Would they even ever think of me?

I wonder if they ever think of me now

 or if they never really cared at all?

Would they come to my funeral?

People are hypocrites. They say things in order to get something from someone, or to pretend to care because they feel that it is socially expected from them- but they lie. They say that they will always be there, that they care. That they can be trusted and relied upon. But only a sad fool relies upon any promise given. Out of sight- out of mind is a truism. People are disposable once they are no longer of any immediate use. Leave the hard stuff, the awkward stuff, the taking time and effort stuff to other people to do. It's a hard world out there... looking out for #1, Me and Mine mindset. Once we thought we were among those "Me and Mine". Now we know better.

Silence Isn't Always Golden

Silence is a vacuum into which all contact is lost

Into which the warmth of love is dissolved.

Silence is coldness with a frigid hardness

Sucking away the warmth from fond memories.

Silence drains the strength from the spirit

Breaking the heart of even the strong.

Silence brings a mind to worry and to fret

Shadow demons haunt with what if's.

Silence is a pit of darkeness

Feeding depression, anxiety, and distress.

Why does silence from and about those we care about have to hurt so much and for so long? Why do we grieve so long and so hard over lack of contact? Why does it hurt so when we are asked by others how our "family" members are doing when the only news we get comes from other people, heard in passing? Why does the attitude of "Don't call us, we will call you when and if it becomes convenient" kill our soul? Why are we so unworthy of care?

  

Taking Time

If you love someone- let them know.

Make time to take time to reach out.

Do not let your life become so busy that you cease to care.

Because some day, too soon, they won't be there.

Don't leave it up to them to contact you

And don't reject them if they do.

Reach out frequently, updates on daily life

Inclusion not exclusion from your world.

Is a text to tell someone you care about them

Really such a difficult thing to do?

"Time, and tide, wait for no one"

The truth is that Time doesn't care.

Time just passes, and it's gone.

   

What is Family?

Blood, Adoption or Marriage links makes you a Relation,  adds you as a member of the Clan.

Love and loyalty makes you Family.

Love, Loyalty, and Contact makes you Close Family.

Attitude is everything, making Family from Strangers and making Strangers out of even blood Relations.

Ii is said that if you want your family members to be there for you, you need to be there for them.  But you can be there for them while they are not there for you. No longer does the old saying that "family are those people who always have to let you in" hold true. If you no longer have anything to offer them you are likely to be"shit-out-of-luck", especially if you may need something from them even in the smallest way. 

     

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If any of the above speaks to your heart please leave me a short note in the comments section. Your feedback is much welcomed.